I wasn’t aware that there was more then one type of affair.  But four!  1. A sexual affair ( the one that everyone knows about) 2. Fantasizing   infidelity (which may seem harmless but can be lethal 3. Visual infidelity (like pornography) 4. Emotional infidelity (like a bad mother in law who doesn’t understand about the dynamics of relationships).  This was very eye opening for me because I feel like many people are having an affair they just aren’t aware.

   Openly talk about sex was something that was new to me as I have come from a more private family. it has really shown me how important to communicate even about matters like that with your spouse. I like how Brother Williams said ”sex is not the most important part of a relationship but it is a great barometer for how the other parts of the relationship is going.”  Interesting stuff.

Last month for a family get together  my mom asked if i would share something i was learning from one of my classes.  So i taught them about the parellel marriage concept brother williams taught.  this was particularly great because that is the exact marriage my mother and step father are in.   By their comments and looks on their faces, it appeared they liked the idea.  I think it helped them see things with an outside view looking in view.

          The Relationship attachment Model was an awsome concept i had never heard of.  This was very interesting to me because I saw how the model can be completely saturated by including physical touch too early.  I will definitely be more aware of this the next time I date someone.  I will be more cautious to move up all measurements at an more even rate.

The idea of Hanging out vs. Dating is a new idea to me.   I mean i guess i always knew about it but i never really categorized it nor saw the importance of dating.  But it totally makes sense, i mean how can you honestly get to know someone when all you know is how they act in a group setting?
   I also liked how Brother Williams said that  "there is no shortcut to getting to know someone."  that statement is so true.  I've jsut learned that it takes straight up time and good listenting.  Trust and a comfort of someones presence cant be bought you gotta build it up.  I gues you just have to fulfill the know quo of time togetherness and talk ( with mutual self disclosure)

When Gloria Steinham said the  "we badly need to raise our boys more like we raise our girls" I thought of my uncles Jason Harris and his family. 
Jason Harris Bounty is a professor at San Francisco State's business college.  Jason's wife works as a children's librarian for the San Francisco Public Library.  Together they have two kids, a boy of 14 and girl of 12.
 After having that gender discussion in class, I spoke to Jason and asked him about his parenting style.  He told me that he is a strong feminist as is his wife.  They believe that running a family as a shared role that should not be gender segregated.  He told me "its not easy trying to teach my kids about a peer marriage with the the inevitable stereotypical society of genders"
His belief is that if his kids grows up doing the responsibilities that pertain to both genders, they will gain a greater appreciation for life and people.  He believes that by raising someone in this manner, that he or she will grow up to be a more understanding, holistic person.
An interesting parenting style that I have never thought about but i see his perspective.